Always Second: A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy (A Personal Blog Post)

For a long time, I thought of myself as always being second. That statement doesn't make much sense, but it meant that no one ever put me first. I felt like my parents never did, and I always felt like I was second best when it came to women. Then, it dawned on me that I just thought of myself as second, and it became a self-fulfilling prophesy. I was second because I made myself second. I made excuses about why I couldn't do things, and it's time for that to stop. But, for that to happen, I have to acknowledge some things.

Being fat is holding me back because I let it. I used to weigh 345lbs. It's a ridiculous weight, and, now, I'm down to 325. I have to keep going, and I have to lose more weight. I feel better, and my confidence is substantially improved. It may not be a hang up for others, but it certainly is for me.

Secondly, I have to take risks. Women are going to reject me, but nothingis going to happen if I don't take that chance. While I can look back and opine about sour grapes, it's just not true. I have to rectify that. My thinking is so faulty that I think most people don't like me, but I'm not an asshole. I don't try to hurt people's feelings. It's time to accept that I'm not a bad person. I can certainly be better, but that takes work. Now, it's time for me to get to work.

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What happened to personal responsibility?

Is anything anyone's fault anymore? Is anyone responsible, or does everyone just pass the buck to someone else? Everyone wants something for nothing these days. But, who is supposed to pay for it? Someone else is the answer. People don't want to pay taxes, but they seem happy to benefit from public programs when they need it. Everyone else is fucking over the system and doesn't deserve those benefits. We're drowning in debt, but we don't vote out politicians who spend and spend and/or refuse to raise taxes. The rich can pay for needed programs, but that responsibility shouldn't shared with the middle class at all. At some point, this just isn't fair. The middle class may not have a lot of extra income, but it's also not fair for a subset of the population to pay a huge portion of the tax revenue. When 50% of people don't pay income tax, it suggests a major problem with our tax system. And, when our corporate tax rate is pushing 40%, but companies pay, on average, 24%, there is a problem.

So, why don't we fix it? What's stopping us from being personally responsible? I'm not entirely sure, but our politicians don't help. The media doesn't help, and the idea that things shouldn't be criticized doesn't help. Imagine if nothing was criticized. Medicine probably wouldn't work. Actually, nothing would. As each side points to the other as the problem, it distracts us as a whole, and we keep voting for the other party. This does nothing. If we want personal responsibility, we have to start with ourselves, and, then, elect personally responsible politicians. Well, there are two more options, but I'll get into those later.